It's funny how us moms need to say this outloud as if searching for a confirmation that this is ok because we are. And even when we know that it is not only ok, but healthy and necessary to do (gosh, we are recharging for our family. This too is for them before us), we still find ourselves repeating it to whomever is listening. Well, from one mom to another, I am listening and saying: It is ok. It is more than ok. It is healthy. It is necessary. It is amazing. Be proud of yourself for doing this. Enjoy your trip. Enjoy your you time. You deserve it. And so do your sons. Happy birthday to your boy! The celebration will be even sweeter when you return. 😘😘
2 years in a row, I led a Yoga Teacher Training in which one of the weekends happened to be my eldest child's birthday (my only at the time). I felt horribly guilty, in part because my mom and MIL made me feel guilty about it. Not because I was particularly worried about how my daughter would feel about it.
She was 1 and then 2. She wouldn't remember now, even if I asked her about it.
And I didn't even miss the entire day. Just a few hours of it.
On the other hand, my husband has missed our son's birthday multiple times (and our eldest daughter's, too), because of deployments or TDY's. He's a pilot in the air force.
No one has ever made him feel guilty about being gone for those.
Perhaps because they place a higher value on his work than mine (military vs yoga/movement educator) or perhaps because the expectation is that mom is always around.
Either way, there are so many ways to make time special with our kids that is not just on the day of their birth.
I love that you're sharing this! Don't we all need a break from that demands of motherhood? And the more we put that out there, the more it normalizes those steps we take to be more ourselves. Motherhood is tough shit! And I always appreciate your down-to-earth point of view. Enjoy!
This is powerful! Thank you for living boldly. There is tremendous mom-shame around doing everything just right, while society gives dads a pass. We should not guilt ourselves into martyrdom. Wish I’d have known this sooner.
It's funny how us moms need to say this outloud as if searching for a confirmation that this is ok because we are. And even when we know that it is not only ok, but healthy and necessary to do (gosh, we are recharging for our family. This too is for them before us), we still find ourselves repeating it to whomever is listening. Well, from one mom to another, I am listening and saying: It is ok. It is more than ok. It is healthy. It is necessary. It is amazing. Be proud of yourself for doing this. Enjoy your trip. Enjoy your you time. You deserve it. And so do your sons. Happy birthday to your boy! The celebration will be even sweeter when you return. 😘😘
Thank you love. Xo
2 years in a row, I led a Yoga Teacher Training in which one of the weekends happened to be my eldest child's birthday (my only at the time). I felt horribly guilty, in part because my mom and MIL made me feel guilty about it. Not because I was particularly worried about how my daughter would feel about it.
She was 1 and then 2. She wouldn't remember now, even if I asked her about it.
And I didn't even miss the entire day. Just a few hours of it.
On the other hand, my husband has missed our son's birthday multiple times (and our eldest daughter's, too), because of deployments or TDY's. He's a pilot in the air force.
No one has ever made him feel guilty about being gone for those.
Perhaps because they place a higher value on his work than mine (military vs yoga/movement educator) or perhaps because the expectation is that mom is always around.
Either way, there are so many ways to make time special with our kids that is not just on the day of their birth.
Wow thank you for sharing
I love that you're sharing this! Don't we all need a break from that demands of motherhood? And the more we put that out there, the more it normalizes those steps we take to be more ourselves. Motherhood is tough shit! And I always appreciate your down-to-earth point of view. Enjoy!
No truer words have ever been spoken “motherhood is tough shit” xoxox
I hope you have a wonderful time at the event!
Thank you!!!! Miss you
This is powerful! Thank you for living boldly. There is tremendous mom-shame around doing everything just right, while society gives dads a pass. We should not guilt ourselves into martyrdom. Wish I’d have known this sooner.